Let Me Guess
An inference framed as an absurd assumption. Invites her to correct or co-sign — always lighter than a bare question.
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What it is
"Let Me Guess" is the move that replaces a question with a guess. Instead of asking "what do you do for work?" you say "let me guess — you're the kind of person who has strong opinions about font choices, possibly in branding, possibly with a Notion that scares people." The guess is the question, but it carries character. She gets to confirm, correct, or co-sign — all three of which are more engaging than a flat answer to a flat question.
When to use it
An early chat anti-interview move. The signal: you want to know something about her, and your instinct is to ask a question. Catch yourself. Turn the question into a guess. Don't use it as an opener — openers don't have a question to subvert. Don't use it on something genuinely serious; the move is light by design.
How to deploy it
- Start with the question you'd otherwise ask. Job. Hometown. Order at the coffee shop. Whatever.
- Turn it into a guess. Make it specific. Make it slightly absurd. Make it falsifiable so she has somewhere to go.
- Leave room to be wrong. The fun is in her correcting you. If the guess is bulletproof, there's no play.
Examples
The guess plus her correction — three flavors that all create the same opening.
Common failure modes
- Guess that's actually a backhanded compliment. "Let me guess, you think you're really funny" — that's an insult dressed up as the move.
- Guess too generic to play. "Let me guess, you like coffee" — there's nothing to confirm or correct.
- Guess that's actually a question with extra steps. If the guess has no specific content, it's a question with branding.
Here's the guess that's too generic to give her anywhere to go:
Pairs well with
Absurd Reframe
Take a mundane detail and recast it as a high-stakes scene from a vivid genre. The exaggeration is the joke.
False Disqualifier
Pretend a trivial preference is a serious dealbreaker. Playful, low-stakes — never something she'd actually take as a slight.
The Anti-Interview
Why questions kill attraction, and what to do instead. The four moves that replace the interview stack.
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Install DateIQ — the AI wingman pulls from this library when it can help.
Want this kind of read at your fingertips while you text?
Install DateIQ — the AI wingman pulls from this library when it can help.