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Who to text next,
and why

Your match list is noisy. The real question every session is: of the 80 open threads, which three deserve attention right now? DateIQ ranks every conversation by affinity, temperature, and stage and puts the reasoning next to each card.

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What you get

  • Prioritized queue across every active conversation, scored in real time
  • Three signals on every card: affinity %, temperature, conversation stage
  • Plain-English reason for each ranking — "82 affinity, cooling, you owe the next message"
  • A drafted next message ships with every card so you can act in one click
  • Copy, edit, skip, or snooze — the queue advances as you work

How it works

The hardest part of texting on dating apps isn't writing a single message — it's deciding who to text next when you have 50 open threads. Most people scroll the match list looking for green dots and recent activity. DateIQ replaces that with a ranked queue that tells you exactly who deserves your next thirty seconds and why.

Each card carries three signals. Your affinity score for the match (from the same model that drives auto-swipe). The temperature of the conversation, a blend of reply latency, message length, and tone shifts. And the stage — opener, building, closing, reviving. The reasoning appears in plain English next to the card, so you stop guessing and start working the list like a queue.

Every entry ships with a drafted reply tagged with the framework behind it, so the gap between "who to text" and "send a message that converts" is one click. Work top-down. The threads that don't matter fall to the bottom on their own.

See it in action

Next-Step Suggestions in context

◠tinder.com/app/matches
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MatchesMessages
New matches · 5
C
Cacadin, 282h
New match · no message yet
M
Mina, 314h
Are you the type who’d actually come or just nod politely?
A
Azaa, 2616h
New match · no message yet
V
Vera22h
haha — that’s a take
S
Sunny48h
sounds about right
CoachSwipeProfile
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3 priorities · sorted by affinity + temperature
All 3Openers 2Builders 1
Ranking by affinity, temperature, and conversation stage…
FAQ

Next-Step Suggestions — questions

Quick answers about this feature.

Each match gets a composite score from three inputs: your affinity model score for the person, the temperature of the conversation (reply latency, length trend, question rate, tone shifts), and the stage (opener vs. building vs. closing). The queue re-sorts every time you open it, so warm threads that have gone quiet float up before forgotten matches with no signal.
The opposite, actually. The queue surfaces high-affinity matches that have gone silent and would otherwise rot at the bottom of your list. The temperature signal also penalizes threads where you're doing all the work — so the people you should text less drop down, not up.
A directional read of how alive the thread is. It blends how fast she replies, whether her messages are getting longer or shorter, the question rate, and tone shifts. You see it as a number you can scan in a second — treat it as a sanity check on your own gut, not gospel.
Yes — pin a match to the top, snooze one until tomorrow, or skip it for the session. Overrides feed back into the model so the ranking learns who you actually want to hear about.
Yes — it's the same engine as the Reply Suggestions feature, framework-tagged and conditioned on her bio, photos, and your style. The framework chip sits right under the draft so you know what move it's making before you send.

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