Next Actions

The hardest part of dating apps isn't writing messages — it's deciding who to write to, in what order, and when. Next Actions does that for you. It's the stack of cards on the Wingman tab that turns "fifty matches, no idea where to start" into a one-card-at-a-time queue.

What a Next Action card is

Each card is one match plus one specific recommendation. Some examples:

• Send the first message. New match, high Affinity Score, here's a draft.
• Revive a stalled thread. Last reply was six days ago, here's a re-opener.
• Propose a date. Conversation has hit closing-readiness; here's a soft ask in your voice.
• Don't bother. Some matches surface as low-priority skips so you can confirm and move on.
• System cards. Score My Profile, "Train the Wingman" — non-match prompts that show up when DateIQ thinks they're the highest-leverage thing to do.

Each card shows the match's photo, the recommendation, the reasoning, and the actions you can take inline — send, edit, skip, snooze, or open the chat.

Working the stack

The stack is sorted by priority — the action with the highest impact on top. You don't have to do them in order, but it's the recommended default.

• Tap through. Read the card, send/skip, move to the next.
• Filter by category. Pills above the stack narrow to a single type — "openers only," "re-engagements only," "closes only." Useful when you're in a specific mood.
• Refresh. The refresh icon re-runs the priority engine. Use after a long browsing session, after syncing new matches, or when something feels stale.
• Clear queue. Wipes the current set of suggestions (matches stay; only the queued recommendations are cleared). New ones populate on the next refresh.

How the priority is decided

A Next Action card is the intersection of a few signals:

• Affinity Score — how well the match fits your taste. See Training the Wingman.
• Stage — opening, building, closing, reviving, stopped. Different stages have different actions.
• Recency / decay — how long since the last message, how cold the thread is.
• Closing readiness — how close the conversation is to a viable date proposal.
• Starred / tagged status — matches you've explicitly flagged jump the queue.

Cards with low Wingman scores or dead-cold threads get deprioritized or filtered out so you're working on the people most likely to actually go somewhere.

When the stack is empty

It happens. Means one of:

• You've handled everything that's actionable right now. Wait for new matches or replies; refresh later.
• You haven't trained the Wingman yet. Without preferences, the engine can't decide who to surface. See Training the Wingman.
• You haven't synced recently. See Syncing matches from Tinder.

What a "propose a date" card looks like

The action is obvious when the thread has clearly earned it. This kind of exchange is what surfaces as a high-priority propose a date card with a soft-ask draft already filled in:

What a "wait and re-engage later" card looks like

Same product, different read. Here the priority engine knows momentum is gone and the right move is not to send the third unanswered message — it surfaces a snooze card with a re-opener queued for a few days out:

The Wingman won't surface a "send another" card here. It'll wait, then offer a clean re-opener that pattern-breaks instead of doubling down.

When you want to go deeper

Next Actions is designed for speed — one card, one decision. For threads that need real thought, click into the match and use the Coach for a back-and-forth read on what's happening. The drafts on a Next Action card are good defaults; the Coach is the second opinion.

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