Getting Started

DateIQ is a browser extension that runs alongside Tinder. It reads the matches and conversations you're already having, ranks them against your taste, scores your profile, and tells you who to message next and what to say. Five minutes of setup, then it stays out of the way until you want it.

Install DateIQ from the link you were sent or from the Chrome Web Store. Pin the icon — you'll use it constantly. Click it and sign in with the account you created on the DateIQ website. The extension doesn't create accounts for you; if you haven't yet, do that first.

2. Open Tinder

Go to tinder.com in the same browser. The DateIQ sidebar appears on the right. The first time it opens, it starts pulling your matches and conversations into the local database automatically — no buttons to click. See Syncing matches from Tinder for what's captured and how to refresh later.

DateIQ is passive. It reads what your browser is already loading. It never logs into your account, never calls Tinder's API directly, and won't get your account flagged.

3. Pick your voice

Open the Brain tab in the sidebar. Set the voice sliders — Vibe, Humor, Edge, Formality. There's no "right" setting; there's only "you." Two minutes here makes every draft DateIQ writes sound like you instead of a chatbot. See Voice Sliders Explained for what each slider does.

4. Train the Wingman (or set preferences directly)

Still in Brain, find Match preferences. This is where DateIQ learns your taste so it can rank matches and skip the ones you wouldn't want.

You have two ways to do this:

Train — rate a handful of existing matches with thumbs up/down. The AI extracts the axes you actually care about (looks, lifestyle, what they're looking for, etc.) and turns them into editable preferences.
Edit — write your preferences directly in plain English if you already know what you want.

Either way, once preferences exist you can click Score to grade every match against them. The result is an Affinity Score per match — how well-fit each person is to what you actually like. See Training the Wingman for the full flow.

5. Score your profile

Before you start chasing matches, see what's keeping new ones from coming in. On the Wingman tab, find the Score My Profile card and run it. DateIQ analyzes your photos and bio with a vision model and gives you concrete suggestions — which photos to keep, swap, or drop, and how the bio reads. See Score My Profile.

6. Work through Next Actions

Back on the Wingman tab, the Next Action stack tells you who to deal with right now and what to say. Each card is a single match plus a specific recommendation — open a stalled thread, send the first message, propose a date. Tap through them in order or filter by category. See Next Actions.

For any thread where you want to go deeper, click AI Reply to get five drafts in your voice, or open the Coach to talk through what's happening.

That's the whole setup. Five minutes, then DateIQ does the heavy lifting and you focus on the parts that actually lead to dates.

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